"For me, being an engineer, I have a deep fascination with how things work and find great beauty in God’s intricate design of nature. She explained to me that NFP predicts the natural cycle of a woman and, based on medical data, indicates when you are and are not fertile. Call me a nerd, but that sounded cool to me."-Ben
NFP helps us see the bigger picture
I was on the pill for five years before I sat back down with my doctor and talked about the side effects of the pill. The discussion was incredible short. Basically she told me the side effects were minimal and reminded me that it would help with acne. Still, I was uneasy about it and I went off of it for about three months. This time the pain from the cramps had me sitting in front of a toilet vomiting my entire first week of college. I went racing back to my miracle pill.
Karina stayed on the pill the next few years and during our junior year, I asked her to marry me.
As I lie there in bed thinking through what she was asking us to do, I realized that I had just given myself three very good reasons to say yes. I decided at that moment to be more motivated.
I also learned natural ways to help my cycles and my general health. We received a handy book called Fertility, Cycles & Nutrition that has been my lifesaver. Because of this book I started taking vitamins, eating more vegetables, drinking more water before my period starts, and exercising regularly. It was amazing that those simple things made such a huge difference. I have had little to no issues with my cycles since starting these easy habits.
Around this time I also found out I have underactive thyroid. When I started charting, that issue was crystal clear in my charts and even indicated that we might have some trouble getting pregnant. Suddenly our plan of “no kids ‘til we’re 30” came crashing down. It wasn’t just the thought of fertility issues that had us reconsidering out view on children, however. Learning NFP opened our eyes to the blessing that children are and God’s overall purpose for marriage.
Our newfound openness to life makes intimate moments all the more special and all the more easy to wait for. Abstinence isn’t easy, though. I have to pay attention to Karina’s charts so I know when it’s the fertile or infertile time. If it’s time to abstain we do many of things we used to do when we were dating, like staying up late to watch a movie or going out to get drinks. It’s ironic, however, because the longer you practice NFP, the harder it is to want to abstain in order to avoid pregnancy. It has only drawn us closer to one another and to God, and I am forever grateful to my wife for taking a leap of faith and committing us to NFP.