Using NFP

Twitter user delivers outstanding defense of NFP

Social media’s not exactly designed for important conversations. Between the anonymous accounts and the trolls, it can be hard to tell what is real and important — after all, much of our approval-addicted society values likes over content. If regular social media is bad, Twitter is even worse. It’s the drug of choice for people…

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You’re beautiful…believe it!

From the Family Foundations archives ****  When I was in the fourth grade, I was lucky enough to sit in the back of Mrs. Flanagan’s classroom with my very best friend — near enough to whisper, pass notes and raise our eyebrows significantly at each other. Lisa and I had one of those friendship where you live…

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Charting through mental illness

From the Family Foundations archives **** One in five. That’s the best estimate of the number of adults who suffer from a “diagnosable mental disorder” in any given year. Anxiety disorders are the most common, and often pair with depression. These conditions can make practicing NFP excruciatingly difficult. Jenna Hines, a 31-year-old NFP user from Chelsea, Michigan,…

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The lowdown on caffeine

An excerpt from Marilyn M. Shannon’s book, Fertility, Cycles & Nutrition. **** Caffeine is a good slave but a bad master. When you use it only occasionally or in moderation, it provides a lift that many people enjoy. However, it affects the nervous system, and can cause anxiety and irritability. It can deprive you of a…

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Abstinence and words of affirmation

This article is part of a series called Abstinence and the love languages. Some people disregard compliments as flattery, but people who are fluent in Words of Affirmation take kind words to heart. In fact, actually hearing or reading affirmative statements from their spouse provides them the proof and reassurance that they can feel safe…

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Abstinence and gift giving

This article is part of a series called Abstinence and the love languages. Fluency in Gift Giving doesn’t have to be expensive. After all, for the person who communicates and receives love through gift, it’s not about the item as much as the sentiment behind it. There’s nothing wrong with a little splurge every once…

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Abstinence and acts of service

This article is part of a series called Abstinence and the love languages. Acts of service are great when they’re a regular part of household maintenance, but they’re even better when they go above and beyond normal expectations. Let your spouse know how much they mean to you by putting yourself at the service of…

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Abstinence and quality time

This article is part of a series called Abstinence and the love languages. Quality Time isn’t just about being around the other person — it’s about being present to the other person. It’s okay if the activity or event doesn’t go as planned — the point is to appreciate being in his/her presence! Here are…

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Abstinence and physical touch

This article is part of a series called Abstinence and the love languages. The key to understanding Physical Touch as a love language is to realize it’s not about sex. If this is your spouse’s primary love language, physical proximity and interaction is key to making him or her feel seen and appreciated. NOTE: Some…

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Abstinence and the love languages

When couples are experiencing periods of abstinence, we often hear a variation of this alarming phrase: “I’m afraid to even touch my wife!” It’s understandable. When every cell in one’s body is bursting with desire for their beloved, it can be hard to find ways to express affection that don’t lead back to the bedroom.…

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