Let me say, first of all, that i'm very sorry for your loss and for the insensitive comments you've received. Every child is a gift from God and the loss of a pregnancy is truly heart-wrenching. When I had my first miscarriage, I received some of the same comments. One of the worst was a neighbor who told me that she secretly hoped for a miscarriage when she was "surprised" with her fourth pregnancy. When I had a second consecutive miscarriage, someone actually commented that this time was probably easier because I had experienced it before. Both of these comments were, of course, from women who've never lost a baby. I don't think they meant to be so inconsiderate. Sometimes people say some pretty bad things when they don't know what to say. The kind, comforting words came from those who had experienced pregnancy losses and knew the pain I was feeling. These kind souls offered comforting words, flowers, and even cooked meals for us for a few days. We try to remember these things and forgive the negative, hurtful comments because I don't think anyone intended to make us feel worse.  We are called to "bear wrongs patiently" and forgive those who hurt us. Pray for those people and focus on their good intentions. We are currently in the very early stages of pregnancy again and hope and pray for a healthy baby. We've chosen to tell no one, not even family, until we're past the first trimester.  A good resourse, available from CCL, is Kimberly Hahn's audio tape on pregancy loss. God Bless you and your family.

— K.B., CA