My husband and I have been a CCL Teaching Couple for eight years now. One of the things that my husband always points out in an NFP class is that Phase II, when being used to avoid pregnancy, is the PERFECT time for the husband to show the wife how much she means to him — to romance her, as in a chaste courtship. She will know that he's not "trying to start something," which means a lot to many women. It also, like in a chaste courtship, really helps to build anticipation for Phase III...something that I feel this man's wife needs.

The physical aspect of marriage is so important, particularly to men, but that isn't the sole reason why we marry. I love my husband more than any person on this earth and I love to show him that physically because I know how much that means to him. In return, this means a lot to me....knowing I make him happy and fulfilled, in turn, completes me. Mr. Popcak's article really hit the nail on the head when he pointed out that our married sexual energy should draw us closer while keeping our mate's best interest in mind. If it simply draws inward to, "When will I be fulfilled?", the whole proverbial boat has been missed. 

It seems that this gentleman has lost focus of the "we" in marriage and is focusing on the "me" ...something that is very understandable and human. Perhaps a period where he looks only to make his wife's needs met (like when we are dating and newly married) would help to regain his reasons for marrying (and prayer is certainly essential, too). He might be pleasantly surprised at the results if he turns his efforts toward fulfilling his wife's needs first. If this is too hard, or it has been too long, I encourage him to pray for grace and strength. I hope he lets his wife know that their marriage is worth fighting for.